Dear husband/partner,

Let me introduce myself… “My name is Dominique and I am a doula.”

First off, you may be wondering what is a doula anyway? The short answer is that a doula is someone who will help you with one of the most exciting and rewarding experiences of your life - birth.

Perhaps you already have a midwife or an OB and you are wondering why your spouse/partner is considering having a doula at your baby’s birth? Maybe you’ve been handed a detailed list of the positive effects that come along with doula care? Maybe you looked them up yourself? (High five!) Or maybe this is the first you’ve heard of a doula. No matter which, you most likely have questions and/or concerns, which is totally normal!

The first thing I want you to know is that my services are not meant to replace your abilities. What you know and feel about your partner is incredibly valuable. Your capability to comfort, encourage and connect with her is completely unique to you and for those reasons I could never stand in your place.

Second, no matter how many books are read, or videos watched, it is difficult to anticipate how you may react when your beloved is engaged in active labour. Learning how to conquer and understand your own feelings/reactions will ensure that she will not have to take care of you while she should be focused on childbirth. With this I can help by sharing the information that relates to your specific requirements and wishes. Work accomplished before labour is work we will not need to do while your partner is labouring.

So, think of me as your guide on a hike to a peak you have not yet endeavored. Together we will find the right map and highlight the important steps. You can hold the compass, select the pace and I will carry the flashlight to light the path for you, so that you can be ready for what lays ahead. Birth and its many options can be a lot to navigate and having a team can lighten the load.

I look forward to hearing and answering all of your questions!

Dom

(please, call me Dom)